Proverbs 23:1-8- Being Happy Right Where You Are

Proverbs 23-1 When you sit to dine with a ruler, note well what is before you, 2 and put a knife to your throat if you are given to gluttony. 3 Do not crave his delicacies, for that food is deceptive. 4 Do not wear yourself out to get rich; have the wisdom to show restraint. 5 Cast but a glance at riches, and they are gone, for they will surely sprout wings and fly off to the sky like an eagle. 6 Do not eat the food of a stingy man, do not crave his delicacies; 7 for he is the kind of man who is always thinking about the cost. "Eat and drink," he says to you, but his heart is not with you. 8 You will vomit up the little you have eaten and will have wasted your compliments.

This passage has two extreme sides painted of the same issue; lack of contentment  with where you are right now.  First we are told that we need to be careful of desiring the "delicacies" of rulers(contextually--those who have more than you) because it is actually deceiving.  And when you have it, it is not what you had hoped for, and, you have exhausted yourself to try to obtain it.

On the other hand, we have avoiding the table of a "stingy man".  The picture painted here is someone who is so overly concerned with being "frugal" that they are incapable of enjoying that which they do have. 

These two extremes are at the heart of our personal frustration with the "Now" in our life.  Either we are desiring for more than we currently have and it consumes us.  Or, we are so concerned with losing what we already have, that we don't enjoy it.  We covet and we hoard.  They are the same heart issue. 

God's promise is that He is the source of our happiness.  And what you have at this very moment is a source of hope and blessing in your life.  The kind that He knows you need for this very moment.  When we covet and hoard we live in the discontent of a lack of trust and hope. 

God's perfect plan for our future is beyond our utmost abilities to conceptualize.  To try to "imagine" or "day dream" things that we want(or don't want to lose), and to dwell on them causes us to lose focus on God Himself and become dissatisfied with who we are(and what we have) right now.

Finding happiness is not about changing our situation, but celebrating where God has us at this very moment.  When we move from envy and worry to gratitude and faithfulness, we will discover that happiness was there all along. 

To read more similar thoughts check out my earlier post here.  Also, a good a sermon on coveting is here.

Update:  Link to a recent sermon I preached on this topic is here

Our Problem with Miracles

Do you ever wish God would do a miracle in your life?  A knock your socks off, blow your mind, kind of miracle?  Then, He doesn’t?  We have a problem with miracles today.  Not that they aren’t happening.  But that we don’t actually know what we are asking for.

The first thought that comes to mind about miracles is something stupendous happening to something around us.  When you are broke and don’t know where to turn, you pray for a miracle of money to fall in your lap.  When someone is sick or dying, we pray for a miraculous healing.

There is nothing wrong with that.  And God does do some pretty fantastic things regarding those problems in our lives. 

But our problem with miracles is that we rarely are looking for and asking for the best type(and the one you can have today) of miracle.

Our first inclination is to run from problems and scream for help.  And when we don’t get it, we are angry, and sad, and disappointed with God.

 God isn’t in the business of giving stuff and making life “better”.  He is in the heart transplant field.

We are made for much more than paying your bills, or not being sick, or not dying.  We are made for the radical transformation that makes us something we weren’t before.  His.

Every moment of every day we have the opportunity to be changed in ways that will astound us.  This change will alter the way you view those trials in your life.  No longer will they be obstacles that destroy, but opportunities to see you learn more of what it means to be His. 

The miracle will be that you don’t need the miracle you wished for.  Because if you are in Christ, the miracle has already happened that covers all.

So, start praying and seeking the miracle of letting God change your heart, not your stuff.

 

Proverbs 22:12--- Frustrating Your Words

"The eyes of the Lord keep watch over knowledge, but He frustrates the words of the unfaithful"

Have you ever said something you regret?  Done something you are embarrassed about?  I know I have.  And when I am honest with myself, every time that happens(and it is often) it is rooted in self-reliance.  I say and do what I think is right.  And it is always wrong.

True knowledge and wisdom belongs to the Lord.  When He goes before us in speech and action the power and effectiveness of what we are communicating is without compare. 

What does it mean to be unfaithful in such a way that leads to "frustrated words"?  Are you in God's word, are you in prayer?  Are you vetting your conversations and life through a lens that is God's truth?  When Christ is your center, it will define the type of words you will use, and how and when you use them!

Steps this week to speak more wisely:

1)  Get in the word.  When you expose yourself to Scripture consistently it begins to shape the way you think and talk.  Start each morning in the word and let it be the guide to your words.

2)  As you have conversations this week, have a running thought going through your head;  "God, what should I say in this moment?"  And here is the key to that, the one I forget, actually listen!


What are some ways that you seek to have more God centered wisdom in your life?

Proverbs 21:30

"There is no wisdom, no insight, no plan that can succeed against the Lord"

Anxiety can be a ruthless master.  It is so easy for us to be controlled by the emotional battering ram that is anxiety.  What will happen?  Will it work?  Will it fail? 

Here is the trick.  Who is going before you in your life?  If it is you, good chance you do fail.  If it is God, nothing will stop Him from completing what it is He has started in motion.

How often we practically say we are living for God, but live really through our own strength.  As we learn to give more and more to Him, allow Him to be the driving force and designer of what we are doing, the more we can have peace and a true and lasting hope that nothing will "mess it up".

So how about you?  Who is leading your steps?  Want to get rid of anxiety about "tomorrow"?  Start trusting Him and following hard after Him today!

Proverbs 20:30 Thoughts

"Blows and Wounds cleanse away evil, and beatings purge the inmost being"

How we view trials shapes the way they will effect us.  If we have a resistant attitude towards the "blows" we take and begin with the "why me?" syndrome it WILL be pain for no reason.

If instead we embrace these trials as an opportunity to grow the experience shifts from one of pain and pain alone to being one of great blessing. 

Not that God gives us pain, but that His Glory is Sovereign, and even "this" will be turned to good. 

So how are you facing your wounds and blows?  Are you running from them and afraid of them?  Or, are you embracing them as an opportunity to finally address the issues of your own heart that have been exposed and can be healed?

Sin and Satisfaction

Sin and Satisfaction

The trouble with Christians today is not that they aren’t saved, but that they aren’t satisfied.  This perpetual lack of satisfaction is the fertile soil in which sin springs up.  Why aren’t we satisfied?  Because we have taken our fill on the junk of the world and have left no room for what we really need.

Have you ever tried to eat healthier?  It is the worst.  When all you want is a bacon double cheeseburger and a large fry from Wendy’s, broccoli and salad sound downright horrific.  Personally I have struggled with weight for all of my adult life.  About 5 years ago I decided to change my habits when I found out I was going to be a father.  I didn’t want to be a fat dad who couldn’t play with his kids.  Cutting out all the food that I was used to was painful.  Literally.  For the first month on a strict dietary lifestyle change I went through what can only be described as withdrawal.  Headaches, body aches, all-consuming cravings.  And to make matters worse all these leafy green vegetables that I was now eating tasted like vomit.

After one year I had lost close to 80 pounds and felt better in nearly every way possible.  Here is the most shocking part, I really really liked vegetables.  My whole life I rarely ate vegetables and avoided them whenever possible(unless they were on a pizza or cheeseburger) and now I was finding myself filling half my plate with some sort of fresh vegetable or salad.  I said to my wife that my biggest regret looking back is that it took me so many years to make this change.

An amazingly simple thing happened during that first year.  When I stopped allowing myself to eat food that wasn’t good for me and only ate things that were good for me my taste buds actually changed.  Instead of craving ice cream, I craved a good grilled chicken salad.  Instead of needing a pop I looked forward to a big glass of fresh water with a splash of lemon juice. 

Physiologically the truth of how we are wired is that we teach ourselves to crave that which we feed ourselves.  The problem with most people who try to go from eating terribly to eating good, is that they just try to add some vegetables to their bad diet.  And the vegetables always lose out in the end because our addictions to that which harms us is so immediately and powerfully satisfying.  We know intellectually that we eat things that are just plain bad for us, but when that choice is staring us right in the face, the addictions nearly always win.  That’s why we have to break its back.

In an immediate momentary sense I will admit that a milk shake sounds better than a plate of broccoli.  That will probably never change.  But here is what I have learned.  My overall happiness and joy is significantly better because of the broccoli.  I no longer want to be a child who only thinks about “Right Now”, I want to live a fully integrated life that is balanced by “Tomorrow”.  And living beyond the moment leads to a more consistently happy life.  The milk shake makes me feel good at the moment it is consumed, the broccoli makes me feel good continually.

We have spiritually become addicted to crap.  Our hearts and minds are filled with so much junk that we feel as if the taste of real satisfaction, one for always, not just now, is objectionable to our souls palate.   Living for our self-centered satisfaction is always immediately and powerfully enjoyable.  Learning to be healthier is hard.  We may experience withdrawal.  But we can get through to the other side.

So here are my tips for breaking your souls addictions and beginning on the path to finding a lasting and powerful satisfaction in Christ.

1)      Break the addiction cycle.  What are the behaviors and choices that you make to find satisfaction that lead you away from God.  If you go out sinning on Saturday and show up to Church on Sunday, don’t expect it to suddenly make a difference.  You already got your fill.  A stomach full of milkshake isn’t going to like adding a vegetable.  As long as you maintain the same patterns, don’t expect to feel differently. 

2)      Don’t just starve yourself, that will only make it worse.  Start filling up on God and His word.  Guess what?  It won’t be as enjoyable as what you are used to….at first.  But if you stick to it, you will one day wonder why it took you so long to do it.

3)      Surround yourself with like-minded people.   Have you ever noticed that fat people have fat friends, and skinny people have skinny friends(generally speaking).  You are influenced by those you interact with.  If you spend the majority of your time at the early stages of change with people who do what you know you no longer should do, you will keep doing it. 

4)      Choose to stick to it.  My first month of changing my eating habits was physically painful.  Breaking patterns of spiritual bondage can feel worse…and take longer to break.  Make the decision to bare through no matter what it takes.  It’s worth it.  On the other side you will feel silly for waiting so long.

 

Stop living for a moment that leaves you desperate for more and unhealthier than ever.  Start embracing true satisfaction.

My Response to an Evangelical Reject

                As I am wont to do, I spend time every week reading and studying theological and biblical discourse and debate wherever they might be on the interwebs.   This is for three key reasons: 

 1) As a Pastor I feel it is a duty to be familiar and knowledgeable on what is out there in the “atmosphere” of Christian and religious thought so that I can better interact with the issues that the people I have been entrusted to lead are thinking about and dealing with.  

2)  There are many resources out there, papers, articles, sermons, etc, that serve to encourage, educate, and challenge me in my own walk in a way that is an enhancement to my own ministry.  

3) I seek to be regularly challenged in my own thought process and my ability to articulate my position wisely and effectively through the reading (and sometimes interaction) with viewpoints that often stand in stark contrast to my own.

                A blogger that I often read is Kurt Willems.  He generally falls into the third category for me.  This does not mean I do not consider him a fellow brother in Christ, I just have some strong disagreements on many secondary theological issues that he articulates.  I have, at times, responded to some of his articles on his actual blog.  What recently caught my eye was a recent posting of his labeled “You Might be an Evangelical Reject if…”  http://www.thepangeablog.com/2011/06/06/you-might-be-an-evangelical-reject-if/  I have a number of objections to his list, and instead of trying to just briefly respond on his page in the comments section I believe a longer response would be more respectful then just a drive by commenting.

                So, without further adieu, I present my point by point response/questions for Kurt(or for anyone who would find themselves in agreement with his points).

Point 1: You’re uncomfortable calling other branches of Christianity “apostate.”

                Are there examples in the mainstream of evangelical culture that you have observed that leads you to believe that the reverse is true?  Namely, they are comfortable, or, actually enjoy, calling “apostate” upon other denominations and churches.  

                I would contend that no one is ever “comfortable” making that sort of statement.   BUT, if there is a biblical justification for it you cannot allow comfort to dictate the speaking of truth.  As church leaders we have a responsibility to protect our flock from “wolves in sheeps clothing”.  There are ABSOLUTELY churches and denominations I would counsel my church members from attending if they were moving away (or going to college for the first time).  I would never take that approach with any sort of “because we’re better” approach. 

                 When these questions and situations have arisen my approach has been to look with that individual at key positional and doctrinal statements made by the particular organization in contrast to clear biblical instruction and teaching.   For illustrative purposes, I am sure Kurt would strongly encourage a friend or church member to avoid association and support of the Westboro Baptist folks.

                 Arguably, where Kurt or I would draw a line in the sand concerning who we would consider “apostate” is slightly different, but that is ok, those are good and informative debates to have.  But bottom line, at some pressure point, those of us in leadership roles have a responsibility to those who look to us for leadership to clearly teach and instruct where apostasy is concerned. 

Point 2:  You worry that those who cling to terms like “orthodox” often do so because they believe it to be synonymous with “Neo-Calvinism.”

                I have found that the vast majority of the people who I have taught and discipled over the last decade are very unconcerned(and often unknowledgeable) about these terms.  The greatest focus is on biblical knowledge, and when confusion arises about something scripturally, the wise and dependable counsel of the history of God’s work and leadership in His Church (capital C used deliberately) is a powerful and important resource.

                I guess we could define that as “orthodox”.  But people do not naturally understand it in a way that automatically comes with baggage.  Which using any sort of term that is abused and misused can do.  The concept of apostolic leadership in the church is a very important leadership structure in maintaining biblical and spiritual consistency and protecting from heresy.  Meaning, it should be a red flag to me if I “come up” with some new biblical epiphany and discover that it is an issue that had been discussed and dealt with by the Church in the past and my idea had been found greatly wanting.   

                The Church is rife contemporarily, and historically, with people who have tried to reinvent Christianity in their own image.  Nearly every time it has been created and developed far outside of the consistency of the Church throughout history.  And every time these “new” churches eventually leave the fold completely(Jehovah Witnesses, Mormons, the Gnostics, etc).  

                While not a direct response to Kurt’s second point, whether or not some people use “orthodox” as a way to defend their “neo-calvinistic” position, do not be so quick to judge peoples intentions when they use that term.  What they mean when they say “orthodox” may be much different than you are supposing.  Also, personally, as a Calmenian myself, I fully recognize and rest in the reality that the church existed for 1500+ years without the terms or schools of thought “Armenian” or “Calvinism” so I am not too overly concerned with either one, and rarely have the people I lead been either.

Point 3: You have significant questions about controversial theological “hot button” issues of the days and are some-what comfortable with the subsequent cognitive dissonance.

                How does this make you an ER?  Again, what you mean when you say something might mean something different than what I mean.  What would Kurt define as hot button issues.  If he was questioning whether or not Jesus died for our sins and through His redemptive work we can have new life, of course I would question where he stands!  So again, what are these hot button issues that you are actually referring to?

Point 4:  You’ve been asked to leave a church leadership position for philosophical / theological reasons.  

                Philosophical purity for ministry is very essential for the effectiveness of a church.  Study the world at large to see how not sticking with your key operating principles negatively effects your overall effectiveness(Coke changing formula, Pepsi focusing on non-soda related business)  Without knowing the details of why someone was asked to leave I can only generically say, you cannot have a church operating successfully if the Senior Pastor is saying “this” is what we focus on and “this” is how we do it, and have a key leader or staff person plainly contradicting that position.

                It does not mean that one view is elevated or “better” than the other.  It simply means we have to all be on the same team and be about the same thing.   If you are running a three legged race you have to be aligned, or you will fall.  If you do not align with the philosophical approaches to how your particular church does ministry, it is not a moral issue, just go to where your gifts are better used for the kingdom.

                As far as theological issues, same thing goes.  YOU CANNOT CONTRADICT PUBLICALLY YOUR PASTOR.  A senior Pastor is called by God to be the leader of that community.  Outside of clear sin and heresy we are called to humbly submit to the authority of those that God has called and appointed as the leader.  There is no qualifier in scripture that we should honor our leaders ONLY as long as they are worthy of it.  If you are unable or unwilling to support the biblical teaching and leadership of your pastors, then you should be asked to leave!  It only takes a small amount of yeast…..

                Basically, being asked to step down from a leadership role is not directly due to being an ER, but an issue that is going to be true in any church context where there is a severe disagreement, but again, is not encapsulated by ONLY Evangelical congregations.

Point 5: You had a “love wins” sticker on the back of your car before the book controversy was even thought of.

                Being a Rob Bell fanboy(not meant to be a slur towards Kurt, because I am pretty confident he would not label himself thusly) could be a justifiable concern for a church.  Not necessarily for the “common” laity, but regarding the last point it is a concern for leadership.  As a pastor, if some random church member had that sticker, I would probably want to talk to them about it and come to an understanding of why they had it.  Depending on their answer I would want to talk biblically about why “we” as a church leadership would be in firm disagreement with some of Rob’s positions.  

                If this was a leader in my church, this would be a serious issue because many of Rob’s theological positions are in direct contradiction of many important stands we take as a church.  And if this was something we could not come to a resolution on we would not want that leader leading people anymore. 

 

Point 6: You read theologians from all across the spectrum.

                I have never heard of any church rejecting someone because they do not ONLY read acceptable literature.  Most of those who I would define as evangelical are some of the most well read theologically speaking people I know.  I am confused by Kurt’s assertion that reading something  outside of the mainstream makes you an ER.  Ironically, just this morning I was having a discussion with our librarian about some “contradictory” theological books to add to our library to show our laity some of the differing viewpoints on end time theology.  So I not very sure how this is an ER statement….

Point 7: You think that science and scripture both reveal God’s truth in complementary ways.

                Maybe I am just an ostrich with my head in the ground…I have never come across any evangelical approach to science that slurs scientific truths and discovery.  Or, at least any mainstream voices that do so.  Again, I am curious as to what Kurt would define as scientific that is being rejected by evangelicalism today.

Point 8: You think that what we believe about the so called “end times” actually matters for how we do mission today.

                Agreed….every church I have been a part of feels the same way.  I would like to know what examples of the opposite there are.

Point 9: You know that living the truth is more important than defending it logically.

                Again, agreed!  Even those in the evangelical circles that hyper focus on apologetics would agree with you once you get past the initial conversations.  And if their lives are not reflecting that reality I know of many who in the pursuit of “logical defenses” have been convicted on a personal level to be more active in the practical outliving of the call of the Cross.  

Point 10 : You recognize culture wars as pathetic attempts for Christians to grab for power.

                This is a loaded and totally unpacked statement.  There is without doubt many who have abused the Christian community’s cultural moral concerns as a way of obtaining personal power.  In my hometown, heavily republican district, we had someone running for Congress as a “Christian family man”.  His commercials were all about his morality and values, but if you knew him personally, you knew he was as wicked and sinful as they get with no heart for the Lord, period.  But, he wanted to be in power, and to have political power in our area, you HAD to run as a conservative republican.  Luckily he lost, but it is a good example.

                This does not change the reality that Christians should stand firm for truth in the culture they are a part of.  I know Kurt does.  And just like we have to be careful to not be co-opted by wolves in sheeps clothing politically about “conservative” biblical values, so does Kurt.  There is a litany of evil people who use the honest heartedness of social justice advocates to obtain power while having no real desire to affect the changes the impoverished need.  

                So while Kurts cultural/political positions may fall out of the Religious Right’s purview of power, they are just as abused and used as Trojan Horses for evil men.  

Point 11: You don’t use the word inerrancy to describe biblical authority because its too rigid a definition and a modernist categorical imposition on the Holy Spirit inspired Scriptures.  

  

                Where is it rigid?  I read a number of church belief statements in response to this point to see what they say about scripture and its authority, and across the board, they take a very rich and nuanced view of the inspiration of the Holy Spirit.  Even the word inerrant has a multiplicity of degrees in Evangelical interpretation.  If by me saying I can trust scripture to accurately convey the message of God as He intended me to understand it, I am being too rigid, then I guess we are at a definite impasse.  

                If I read Kurt’s statement in the way I think it is implying, I am highly concerned.  Either the bible is reliable and means what it says it means(with appropriate reflection upon its cultural and historical contexts) or it is not.  If it is not, then what do we stand on?

Point 12: You think women should do anything BUT be silent in the church. (Can I get an AMEN from my sistas?)

                Again, I need this unpacked more.  One, what is Kurts interpretation of verses that DO tell women to be quiet in church.  Two, what is his biblical argumentation for egalitarian vs complementarian positions.  Does Kurt believe there are specific roles that men and women are best suited to in the way that they are image bearers of different parts of God’s image?  

Point 13: You think that postmodern philosophy helps theology more than it hurts it.

                I do not think the prevailing philosophy of any age has any real bearing on theology and its truth.  It just helps to define how we best communicate to a lost world.  Ignoring the realities of an era is a great misstep.  This also means, for me, that postmodernism is a non-issue and does not have a good or bad value.  It just is.  A bit of confusion on how this makes you an ER.

Point 14: You drink alcohol sometimes (in public).

                Who are these strawmen evangelicals that Kurt is referring to.  Mark Driscoll who is the Rob Bell for evangelical fan boys advocates drinking in sermons.  Heck, he advocates drinking high quality beer and considers cheap beer a sin(natty ice anyone???)  I do contend that as a pastor I should avoid drinking in public because I have a greater degree of responsibility to lead those who are struggling by how I live out my faith.  I have alcoholics in my congregation, me drinking at a bar would be a very damaging temptation for them.  So, for their sake, I keep my drinking to sitting alone in dark rooms while crying……which is how we all do it….right???

Point 15: You endorse someone that has been deemed a heretic by apprising.org

                Until this article I had never heard of apprising.org and have discovered some pastors that I like to be negatively presented on this site.  So, I guess Kurt and I are in the same boat.  I did not know, though, that apprising ministries spoke for the evangelical community authoritatively.  

Point 16: You believe that there are significant parallels between the Roman Empire of the 1^st Century and the United States of modern day.

                I have been hearing this since Sunday school!!!  Who disagrees with this?  I have led whole bible study plans through this idea multiple times.  Nearly every church that I have ever been a part of has mentioned this at some point.  Who are these strawmen????

Point 17: You believe social justice is central to the gospel of the Kingdom.

                See my response on point 10.  Also, where is the biblical call to social justice, AS IT IS DEFINED IN OUR CULTURE TODAY?!?  

                I agree we have been a pathetic church when it comes to the poor and the downtrodden in America.  But, I see a personal call to the church and individuals to step up their outliving of the Gospel, not a call to force government policies to achieve this goal.  If the church lived the way they were called to, this would not even be an issue.  For me this is a pass the buck issue that obligates others to be forced to do that which we as Christians have been called to do.  Also, as in point 10, the people trumpeting social justice care little for it in reality.  The well intentioned people on the ground level of these issues are simply useful sheep in political machinations that are achieving the opposite of their hearts desires.

                So, for me, I do not think the gospel is CENTERED on social justice.  Social Justice is just a natural outflow of living the gospel.  But that is an important distinction.  It is works for grace vs because of Grace I work.  It might seem a minute chicken or egg difference, but it is a difference that matters to God.  

Point 18: You throw up a little in your mouth every time someone says that “the rapture is coming soon, so what’s the fuss with taking care of the planet?  Lets save souls!”

                First, I believe God cares more about Kurt then he does about a bird.  Dominion over the planet does come with the command to take care of it.  If I was too watch over your house, and you came home and it was burned to the ground, you would be right to be angry with me.  I could care less about the rapture, but I care infinitely more about souls then the environment.  My time and money is a zero sum game.  I only have 24 hours a day and only have so much money.  If I have to choose between donating to the Sierra Club or supporting a missionary, I’ll pick the missionary.

                The way Kurt phrases this puts environmentalism in direct contrast to the Harold Camping mentalities.  That is unfair.  

Point 19: You’ve said “I’m not that kind of Christian…”

                Anyone who has had an honest conversation with a non-christian has uttered this phrase at least once.  Doesn’t make you an ER.

Point 20: You considered or actually voted democratic in the last two elections.

                Here is a big reveal.  I am a one issue voter.  For me, pro-life is a non-negotiable.  And I do not care what party a person is from.  Before people say that is so stupid…you are ALL ONE ISSUE VOTERS.  Including Kurt.  No matter how much you might like someones policies, or how great they seem, if they also advocated killing mentally retarded people by firing squad, you would not vote for them.  Even if there other policies seemed to actually decrease the number of mentally retarded people being born in the long run, you would still run for the hills.  We all have a pressure point that we will not cross no matter what.  I am sad to hear that Kurt does not draw that line for something like abortion.  That does not mean he has to vote republican.  Just not for someone who supports abortion.

Point 21: You think that African American Activists have valid points when it comes to justice issues.

                What points have they made that evangelicals disagree with?  Who is this strawman???

Point 22: You have gay friends.

                Perhaps this is one of Kurt’s “hot button” issues.   I have had gay friends in my life.  I am totally open to more gay friendships.  They don’t like me.  Believe me, I have never tried to attack them over their lifestyle and sexuality.  But, when the inevitable question comes up about what I think about it(especially when they hear what I do) and I answer them biblically, they are no longer interested in being my friend.  I guess I would have more gay friends if I just took the approach of saying, I am not that kind of Christian….you know…one who believes the bible means what it says……I am one of those Christians who takes my personal emotional response to an issue and works really hard at getting the text to fit my emotional interpretation.  

                Not accusing Kurt of this at all.  I am not actually sure of his position on this issue.  But, I do know that people who are currently unrepentant in their sin do not like being reminded(not that you actively do so, or that you even should) of their sin.

                We had a gentleman visit our church last year.  Lots of sin issues, offered the gospel message, declined.  Avoided us for a year.  Showed up this past Sunday, after a 30 minute conversation prayed to receive Christ.  Bringing his family this coming week to church with him.  We were never mean, condescending or “judgemental” of him.  But he was unwilling to repent of his sin, and knew we were going to challenge him on it.  The Holy Spirit worked on him for a year to bring him to this point.  We have a responsibility to lovingly and correctly speakabout our sin and our need for repentance and the grace of God through the redemptive work.  

                Scripture is clear.  Rejecting sin does not save you, but, if you do not have a repentant heart, or at least a willingness to address and work through God on being free of your sin, it is a huge red flag that you have not truly believed in and accepted Christ!  

                Having a “number” of friends who live in sin does not make you a more biblical Christian or an ER.  It is something we should all make an effort to pursue.  This past week in a bible study with teenagers I had them each list a friend of theirs who does not know the Lord and challenged them to spend time with them this month and build a friendship.  

                But we are cautioned in Psalm 1 to avoid too deep of fellowship with those who are “scoffers” and sinners.  So, if someone would tell me their best friend in the whole world was an unrepentant sinner and “scoffer” of God’s word I would be extremely concerned for them.  I would never say, stop being their friend.  But I would try to help them build more biblically affirming friendships within the body.

Point 23: You’ve been in a conversation where the other was appealing more to the constitution of the USA than actually biblical theology.

                What was the context of this conversation?  If you were debating the powers and scope of government as described by our legal documents of governance…..I guess it would be practical to discuss what the constitution says.  Otherwise you are advocating for ignoring the law to foist your brand of religiosity on the country.  Which is what the religious right has been accused (rightfully) of doing for decades.

Point 24: You’re also an Anabaptist…

                Most of the Anabaptist positions would fit well in my evangelical church.  So I am not sure how that makes someone an ER

                Overall, I really like Kurt’s blog.  I do absolutely disagree with him on some issues, but do not consider those issues to be essential doctrines of Christian faith.  But, in this blog, I have found his strawman “attack” on the Evangelical strain of Protestantism to be wholly without merit.  So I found myself inspired to do a point by point critique.  Which you already know if you stuck with me till now…..

                Feel free to comment and critique.  I welcome it.  And do not forget to check out Kurt’s blog, but since he might be listed as heretic by apprising.org, I guess I will not endorse his blog……